THERAPY FOR WOMEN IN MICHIGAN & WASHINGTON
Anxiety & Self-Esteem Therapy
Quit holding yourself back.
Ready to stop feeling like you’re not good enough?
Does this sound like you?
You avoid asking for help because you don’t want them to see you struggle
You don’t say NO to requests because you might be perceived as rude or mean
You can’t appreciate your own success because you fixate on the mistakes you made
You go above and beyond for others, even when they wouldn’t do the same for you
You’re kind and understanding to others, but you do not give yourself the same grace
You feel like you have to justify or over-explain yourself to other people
You avoid conflict at all cost and try to make sure everyone else is always happy
You struggle to relax because you’re so focused on the worst possible outcome
You feel unsettled and anxious when other people are upset with you
Maybe you also struggle with…
Constantly saying, “I’m sorry!”
You feel so scared of judgment or offending others that you find yourself apologizing for everything — for your actions, your words, even for taking up space. When there’s something wrong in one of your relationships, you’re pretty sure it’s your fault. Even when people reassure you that you caused no harm, you don’t believe them.
Perfectionism
You’ve always been a high achiever, but you constantly fall short of your own expectations and criticize yourself when you don’t meet them. Even when others believe you did exceptionally well on a task, you don’t believe them because you see all the mistakes and errors you made. Anything less than perfection feels like failure.
Overthinking & worrying
Falling asleep is challenging because your mind is racing with a swirl of thoughts, including:
- worrying about things going wrong and then trying to analyze if there’s any way to control the situation
- replaying conversations and thinking about what you should have said or done instead
- revisiting old memories where you felt embarrassed or ashamed
- thinking about how everyone hates you and you can’t do anything right
- playing out hypothetical conversations with people
- thinking of worst possible scenarios so you feel prepared for the worst outcome
- going over your to-do list so you don’t forget anything
People-pleasing
You just want to feel cared for and valued by others, so you give them everything you have while you neglect your own needs. And when the care and approval doesn’t come, you beat yourself up for not trying hard enough. Even when your cup is empty, you’re still giving more. And maybe you feel resentful towards others for taking so much from you without giving anything in return, but you’d never confront them about it out of fear of conflict or losing them. You see that you’re stuck in this pattern, but you don’t know how to get out of it.
Being vulnerable with others
Maybe when you were growing up, you took care of your parents instead of them taking care of you — or maybe you had to take care of yourself. Regardless, you feel ashamed to lean on others when you’re struggling or to let other people take care of you. It feels like you should be able to take care of yourself, no matter how bad things are.
Second guessing yourself
Making a decision is paralyzing — even when it comes to something as simple as choosing what to have for dinner. You carefully evaluate your options, but you’re worried you’re going to make the wrong choice or that others will be upset about your decision. When you DO finally make a decision, you feel panic instead of relief because what if you picked the wrong one? What if you’re making a huge mistake? No matter what choice you make, you rarely feel confident in your decisions.
It might feel impossible now, but you can quiet that voice in your head that says you’ll never be good enough. You can treat yourself with the same compassion you give to others. You can become more confident and self-assured.
And I can help you get there.
I’ll help through this process, tailoring each step to your unique needs and circumstances. My approach to treating anxiety and self-esteem issues comes from a place of believing that beating yourself up holds you back from living an authentic, fulfilling, and happy life.
My approach to therapy is focused on helping the logical/thinking part of your brain connect to the deeper emotional/feeling part of your brain so that you can stop the war between them. I use somatic brain-body therapies like Brainspotting and EMDR to help you tap into your brain’s natural healing processes so that we can stop the voice in your head that says you’ll never be enough. We can address your negative self-talk and limiting beliefs right at the core.