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Online Anxiety & Self-Esteem Therapy

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Online anxiety and low self-esteem therapy for women and girls in Michigan and Washington

Tell me if this sounds like you

  • You avoid asking for help so others don’t see you struggle
  • You fixate on mistakes and can’t see your own success
  • You go avoid conflict at all costs and won’t say no
  • You feel anxious when others are upset with you
  • You go above and beyond for others who don’t reciprocate
  • You’re kind and understanding to others, but not yourself
  • You feel like you have to justify or over-explain yourself

Maybe you also struggle with…

You feel so scared of judgment or offending others that you find yourself apologizing for…everything. For your actions, your words, even for taking up space. When there’s something wrong in one of your relationships, you’re pretty sure that it’s your fault. Even when people reassure you that you caused no harm, you don’t really believe them.

You’ve always been a high achiever, but you constantly fall short of your own expectations and criticize yourself when you don’t meet them. Even when others believe you did exceptionally well on a task, you don’t believe them because you see all the mistakes and errors you made. Anything less than perfection is failure.

Falling asleep is challenging because your mind is racing with a swirl of thoughts like

  • worrying about things going wrong and then trying to analyze if there’s any way to control the situation
  • replaying conversations and thinking about what you should have said or done instead
  • revisiting old memories where you felt embarrassed or ashamed
  • thinking about how everyone hates you and you can’t do anything right
  • playing out hypothetical conversations with people
  • thinking of worst possible scenarios so you feel prepared for the worst outcome
  • going over your to-do list so you don’t forget anything

You just want to feel cared for and valued by others, so you give them everything you have while you neglect your own needs. And when the care and approval doesn’t come, you beat yourself up for not doing enough. Even when your cup is empty, you’re still giving more. And maybe you feel resentful towards others for taking so much from you without giving anything in return, but you’d never confront them about it because you don’t want to make them mad or lose them. You see that you’re stuck in this pattern, but you don’t know how to get out of it.

Maybe when you were growing up, you had to take care of yourself or your parents instead of them taking care of you. Or maybe there’s another reason why it’s hard to let other people in. Regardless, you feel ashamed to lean on others when you’re struggling and it feels extremely uncomfortable to let other people take care of you. It seems like you should be able to take care of yourself, no matter how bad things are.

Making a decision is paralyzing and even simple ones become difficult. You carefully evaluate your options, but you’re worried you’re going to make the wrong choice or that others will be upset about your decision. When you DO finally make a decision, you feel panic instead of relief because what if you picked the wrong one? What if you’re making a huge mistake? No matter what choice you make, you rarely feel confident in your decisions.

address anxiety and low self-esteem at its roots

EMDR

EMDR helps your brain reprocess past experiences that contribute to anxiety or low self-esteem by using eye movements or other forms of bilateral stimulation, making them feel less intense over time.

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Brainspotting

Where you look affects how you feel. We can harness this phenomenon to help you get to the root of your anxiety and negative beliefs about yourself to find deep, lasting change.

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Online therapy for anxiety and low self-esteem in Michigan and Washington

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You don’t have to be your own bully and you don’t have to be held back by fear

I’ll help through this process, tailoring each step to your needs and circumstances. My approach to treating anxiety and self-esteem issues comes from a place of believing that beating yourself up holds you back from living an authentic, fulfilling, and happy life.

My approach to therapy is focused on helping the logical/thinking part of your brain connect to the deeper emotional/feeling part of your brain so that you can stop the war between them. I use somatic brain-body therapies like Brainspotting and EMDR to help you tap into your brain’s natural healing processes so that we can stop the voice in your head that says you’ll never be enough. We can address your negative self-talk and limiting beliefs right at the core.

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Book a consultation to see if I’m the right therapist to help you overcome anxiety and live life with confidence. I’m here to support you every step of the way.

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